It has been three months since I changed the locks on my AH while he was off on yet another bender. So far in these last three months I have accomplished more than I have in the last three years. Household projects are getting done. I found my smile and apparently I love to laugh. The house smells good and not like a distillary. All the things that I had been putting off are now getting done. Instead of spending all of my energy trying to help someone I am spending it on me. It feels great. I feel accomplished!