And those are my feelings as well. I feel like if he is really serious about his recovery, he wouldn't be pressuring me. The last time we went through this, I left w/out filing. He agreed to do treatment and to quit, I came back after a month and he was back at it immediately. He claims he will stay sober regardless of the state of our marriage. But yet I can't help but feel him telling me he feels like I abandoned him and that he thinks I am not willing to try at our marriage is him manipulating me or laying on a guilt trip. I've told him that I am afraid if I let him move back home too soon that he will just slip back into old habits. His response is he is staying sober no matter what, yet at the same time he says "we" are in recovery together. It's like one minute he is saying his sobriety and our marriage are separate, but the next minute he is saying they're not.