Wow. I am so grateful to u all! I cant believe ur quick responses and openness! I am going to consider all of ur responses and appreciate them so much! To be honest.. I never thought of this cycle as a binge cycle.. I think I kind of know when its coming ( because of his moodiness) and so I get ready for it by being tense for days. My worry was that I was "jumping the gun" about his behavior and not letting him "get thru" this period.. but.. then I thought. It isn't that he is just irritable.. argumentative.. No. He is suspicious and accusatory.. demanding and..i get that icky gut feeling. Guess that says a lot right there. I will keep reading SR.. so far it has kept me from totally losing my mind
thanks again all!