Update on this thread. Unfortunately the relationship has now turned contentious. But you were right about me getting more confident. The braver I have become the more they dislike me. I was way too accommodating way to desperate for friends at any cost. I knew their was alcohol abuse and I accepted and went along with it. I just didn't know to what extent. I know now what the signs are and that ill never accept that kind of sick invitation again. Their lives have fallen apart and despite everything it's been heartbreaking to watch. I feel partly responsible. Professionally there still do quite well. What an weird and crazy lifestyle. I'm so grateful that my life is better. It's a shame that I had to proverbially crucify myself at their alter of self destruction but boy did I learn one unforgettable lesson. Mind your own f'ing business. People are what they want to be and it's not up to me to save them. Who did I think I was??