Dear Upset, I hope you have checked out the prisoners families forum. You need the somaradarie and support of those who have been there and understand.
Giving up you
I say that you do what makes you feel that you can live with. I would think really hard before giving up my home (might be different if he were innocent).
these are my thoughts...one mother to another.
My heart goes out to you. Think about reading the book I suggested to BlueSkies in her thread. That book gave me comfort--I think it might for you, too.
sincerely, dandylion