Originally Posted by
postcard1 
i am really worried i will lose my wife. she is still with me and will come to therapist; i feel i need to keep asking her for reassurance that she will stay but i know that is unfair and i need to give her space. i need to stay sober this time
I would think that if she is still there and going to your therapist meeting with you, she still cares. However, at this point I would concentrate on getting and staying sober for you. Other things will fall into place.