Hi OBR, welcome. Wow, it sounds like you have really got some good recovery going on there, good for you for taking care of yourself.
I am on the other side of the fence, newly sober and clean. I went to rehab for 30 days and I do think that enabling fuels the fire. When other people clean up our messes it helps the disease along. Only when we start to really see the fallout do some of us get help. I know it is hard to be the loved ones, but there are some incredible people here who have gone through what you are going through right now. I have found this site to be a great help in my recovery!