Originally Posted by BlueSkies1

On one had, it went well, he WAS really honest and really sober, both are good. The bad part, he's "on the fence" about our marriage. He's giving it a 50/50 shot. I think when a partner isn't committed, it is time to get selfish, let self-preservation and self-protection actions kick in. I would seek individual counseling. I would get into a self-protection mode to brace myself for a possible ending of the relationship, and I would start putting myself first. It's either that or you are at the whim of what he wants to do. Not good. You're not a puppet on a string, you're a person! A person who committed with love. He is not giving it back. No wonder you are angry. Time to have your own back...he's showing you he may not.