DD, glad to hear you got past the wedding stumbling block. Does your doctor know about your limitation with pain meds? If a cane will help, I'd go for it no matter how it looks. This is not the time for vanity. Serious pain is no joke! It's exhuasting and debilitating and does an awful number on quality of life, as i'm sure you will agree. I hope your surgeon decides to move your surgery up. It sounds like this isn't the time to keep a stiff upper lip! Hang in and give 'em heck!