Hi Tallia, I think the advice from your friend is really nice, and in a nice little nutshell you can carry around.
Lorelai, good for you for 5 days! And for coming back. There's nothing wrong with accepting help from others, it is part of the process of loving yourself. Constantly denying yourself self care and care from others is a vicious cycle.
Best to let go, let live, and love.
A long time ago, when I was mad at myself and had trouble accepting help (no one had ever been there for me before and I was terribly codependent and self hating. I simply didn't understand the language of receiving help), my therapist taught be to breathe and to focus on receiving.
I felt guilty at first but the practice opened my mind to the concept of being still and letting things come to you. Allow them in, heal yourself, and you can better help others in return.
Welcome back hon it's so good to see ya