Dear Cantcureit, I'm the mom in the game of addiction. What comes to mind right away regarding your question was the blame. My children blamed me cause I couldn't braid their hair straight, or I worked part time or some other very dumb reason. It's all my fault, second was the guilt cause I couldn't prevent it, why didn't you see the signs mom? Maybe cause you hide them or I trusted you? Doesn't matter anymore...I work on taking care of myself and be supportive to my daughters whom are both in recovery, and to seek out and accept support. I personally think these kinds of questions help the people who love addicts, it shows we are not alone. Sobriety to all! TF