Absolutely agree cynical one, the recovery part is theeee most important part of all, it just takes time to get through the process to want to get to the recovery part. Sounds like cantcureit wants to get there, just needs to know that it's not okay to put up with everything just because you love the person? All addicts can end up hurting us bad as we all know, but maybe cantcureit hasn't talked to anyone else that's been in her position?