As an AH, reading your post makes me feel so badly about what I’ve put my wife through. I too forced her to make painful decisions. I am trying to do the next right thing and prove to her that I want to stay sober. The best way to do this is to not drink and take care of myself.
I hope everything turns out well for you and your husband. Don’t beat yourself up for wanting to help your AH help himself. I will keep you in my prayers.
Thanks for posting. It helped me remember that my actions hurt those that are closest to me the most.