B&B - have you ever just given yourself PERMISSION to be done? without making it anybody's fault? or needing the perfectly acceptable REASON?
that can be a big step when we've never felt like we HAD a voice, or a choice. but we DO. we can make decisions and NOT have to defend them to death. we can choose a course of action and not worry what others will think. honestly, not THAT many people are watching or find our own lives THAT captivating. it's all in our head.
ending a relationship is not a crime. removing ourselves for a toxic situation is the RIGHT and HEALTHY thing to do. we are not responsible for anyone else's life or feelings but our own (children of course excluded!). we ARE however responsible for ourselves.....to learn, tend to our wounds, heal. as long as we defiantly hold on to our yesterdays, we leave little room for today or whatever tomorrow may bring. the Universe is in the now and AHEAD of us. the Universe will invite and offer, but only for so long. we CAN choose to stay exactly as we are, where we are, that is always our right, but like Groundhog's Day the scenery won't change. there will be less and less NEW, because we've made it clear we don't WANT new.