I think it comes natural and easy for us to focus on and get all caught up in someone else's life and issues then it is to look at and address our own.
Misoberbio said it best!!!
Put down the microscope and pick up the mirror.
Water seeks its own level. When I am attracted to get involved with someone else's issues I have to stop myself and see what my own issues are first because there issue is a mirror shining on me and some where inside of me something needs to be looked at.