Originally Posted by
BookNerd 
I am determined that I am going to start LIVING life with my kids, and enjoying it, no matter what my AH says or does.
Isn't this the GREATEST, most freeing feeling? After my AH's final freak out a few months ago, I had a long talk with my daughters (who are very emotionally mature and savvy). We all agreed that it was time to put this junk behind us, leave my AH (who is their stepdad) to his own choices, and live our own lives because my AH does NOT get to be the most important person in our family any more. And every step that we take to enjoy our lives, have fun, etc. just feels so wonderful.