Just from my past experience with my exah ~
His tools, his shed, his perfect hiding place for things he didn't want me to see ~
That's why it was off limits for me ~
There are great suggestions here for taking back control of your happiness ~ getting help from friends/family, finding tools at garage sales,
Also, check out your local Lowes, Home Depot, & other home improvement stores - many of them offer Saturday FREE instruction classes for kids to learn how to make things too (there may be some cost for the materials you might have to check in advance) ~ could be something you & kids can have fun doing together - Help take the focus off of him.
An Al-Anon slogan is Live and Let Live ~ sometimes we focus on the "Let Live" and forget the first part "Live" ~ go and enjoy your life - especially with those precious children - we all know that time passes by way too fast!
wishing you the best in your carpentry adventures!!!
pink hugs!