befuddled, welcome to SR! As you already know, a lot of us here are or have been in your shoes. This forum is a great place to educate yourself about alcoholism and codependency as well as find support for yourself in your recovery and continued growth.
Can I suggest Alanon? It's another great resource, and many of us here use both SR and Alanon for the strengths of each. Here's a link to help you find an Alanon meeting:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ Many meetings do offer child care, if that's an issue for you.
I hope you can take some time daily to work your way thru the stickies at the top of the page as well as look at the ongoing and new threads in the rest of the forum. For me, one of the biggest eye-openers when I first came here was that
I was not alone. All these people had similar problems...
Again, welcome, and I hope to see you posting here regularly!