Everyone copes with their addicts the best they can, I know the gift card suggestion was made in the spirit of helping! I appreciate all of your support. No word from her still, so I am thinking I was right to conclude she is backing out of her detox plan. Thanks for reminding me, steelmagnolia, that there is a little kid in me that never got to be a little kid, and that she deserves a little fun and attention. Your comment brought tears to my eyes. Sometimes I underestimate how much my childhood experiences, with two alcoholic parents, continues to shape the struggles I face today. I am going to do something I enjoy this afternoon, and then having dinner with friends tonight. I will try to focus today on being in the moment instead of falling into my very old pattern of mothering my sister.