LMN
If you've never watched Brene Brown's TEDTalk on Vunerability.......take a look. I was watching it this morning for the umpteenth time and she said something that immediately made me think of you and this thread.
Blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort.
He is simply trying to ease his own pain and discomfort. It is why addicts blame us and why we blame the addict. It's far easier to express anger and blame someone else....than it is to look at ourselves and say "this is my part"......
It's not about you.
gentle hugs
ke