Hey sweetheart...you probably need to detach and just throw out a long anchor for support. Reading this made me so sad... It instantly reminded me of the movie...28 days. You had to grow up and lose your childhood to be the mom... Just as I did! Very very sad! I know that for the rest of my life... I will forever mourn the little child lost. It's time for you to be good to you! You will never ever be able to fix the brokenness of your sister! Just stay back in silence and let her know you love her...good love...mags