Hi jjj111, You are a wonderful caring sister indeed. One piece of advice I learned the hard way regarding money; if she want cash for let's say to detox or food or whatever, tell her to send the bill to your home, if you give her money, and her husband sees it or she changes her mind about being sober, that hard earned money may go to drugs. I say that in the kindest way, drug addicts lie, lie and lie some more! You can send gift cards to grocery stores, they can't be used for alcohol or cigarettes I think. Is there any family out where she lives? Sent the money to them. Addicts, not recovered, just cannot be trusted. Plain and simple. How old is the child? If the child is a baby, they can't travel by air alone. But a 5 yr old may have an escort to fly with them. I know the dollar signs are pilling up in your mind, they are in mine. But your sister, if she is truly sincere about her sobriety, is well worth the effort, right? Just some ideas for you to think about as your new friend, your sister and brother in law are very lucky, very lucky you care so much about them. But don't overwhelm yourself, if they say F*** off, give them time, as long as the safety of the child is not in jeapordy, a little thinking time may be all she needs. Take care, TF