I have to ask this. In previous posts you talked about your husband controlling you to the point of doing the shopping so you couldn't leave the house. Is it possible that you could be going down the path to another abusive relationship? Putting together all the things I've read over the last month, I'm starting to be concerned.
Have you ever looked at the "cycle of abuse" chart?
And what is "surrendering your car" mean? A repossession? Do you have any other means of transportation?