Sounds like a very bad situation. Thankfully all are okay and no one is hurt.
Ditto Foolsgold, I've spent a couple nights in a cell and it didn't really create any shock and awe except for my wallet. Do you have the opportunity to attend a diversion program through the court system? Sometimes the classes, probation and service are helpful to recovery.
How is your wife dealing with all of this? I agree about the amends. I would call everyone and apologize.