Originally Posted by
1undone 
My first instinct was to pack it up and leave.
sounds like you have some serious problems with your marriage
my wife set us up for counseling once years ago now
yes- without my permission
I went with her
things worked out very well for the two of us
but
it takes two willing partners to make it work
if you care about your marriage why wouldn't you wish to go ??
Mountainman