Funny thing about us men, we seem to get into a lot of trouble for making decisions with appalling timing and without proper consultation with our wives but with the best of intentions at heart. Then it all backfires!
I have to remind myself even now about the pit falls of self will.
I barely know the background but sounds like he's taken the initiative.
If you were my wife I would be really appreciative if you came up, asked me to listen and not say anything until you were done talking and told me exactly how you felt.
Wish my wife would do that some times.