I'm married to the same cool man for 25 years. He'll have 8 years sobriety in early December. He is an active member of AA. Myself? Never thought I was an alcoholic, and I drank 2 bottles of wine as an everyday thing for a very long time. I knew I had a "problem". Tried to moderate in a dozen different ways, all failed. My hubby did not leave out books for me to read. We had lots & lots of conversations about things happening to him, and I was thrilled! After all, he had the problem, not I. It wasn't till last November that I had 'something occur that shocked the shite out of me! Words out of my mouth to my husband, while on our way to walk into a supermarket to buy wine, that I wouldn't go into Rehab till I went to de-tox first. Where the hell did that come from?? NOBODY was more shocked than ME. I am one grateful alcoholic, a day at a time. Bobbi