My AH says very mean things too when he's drunk. Then he's quick to tell me we belong together. In between all that was "All your BS makes me want to put a gun in my mouth & then said "no, maybe I should put the gun in your mouth ha ha ha."
He recalled none of it as usual & is sorry, didn't mean any of it, loves me blah, blah, blah
I always wondered if the drunk meant it too. My mom used to believe Alcoholics said the truth while drunk that they couldn't say sober. I'd like to believe he didn't mean all those hurtful things