My mother-in-law has insisted numerous times that she wants to contact my AH's old AA sponsor. Bwa hahahahahahahahaha! I didn't actually laugh at her, but thank God nobody has any information on who this person is/was, 6-7 years ago when my AH was in recovery.
But yeah, there are times when I have a sudden flash of some action I could take that in my codie craziness I think will either "prove" to everyone that I am "right," or give me some sort of validation. Like you, as I have progressed in my recovery these have gotten less frequent, and definitely less intense. I can immediately recognize them for what they are, laugh at myself a little, and move on.
And YES...as I have freed myself from all of the emotional crap I was putting myself through, I DO feel periodic excitement that someday I may actually meet someone with whom I can have a normal, healthy relationship.