What a day
Thanks so much for your input. It is a great comfort to me that others have shared similar experiences and struggles. I don't feel so alone now.
Getting the tests today (and more for tomorrow) was a cold hard dose of reality. I struggle with the anxiety of waiting for the results.
AS far as boundaries go - maybe some of you can help me. I would set them, he would break them. Then, I wouldn't set them any more in the hopes that he wouldn't use them against me. I don't have too much trouble with what my boundaries are and how to set them. The trouble I have is with reinforcing them once they have been broken. Any helpful advice?
God bless you all!