My ESH...
Its a choice thing. I know some people who sat on the can and they were much better off.
Others took the lid off and kept it off...
I am one of the No 2 group- it has been tough- but life was too tough anyway.
For me is was a case of TINA- There Is No Alternative.
I this would we are basically out here on our own... we will get some help along the way- give a little, take a little...
ACA or ACoA is self governing- we all have to pitch in to make things work...
DavidG.