Originally Posted by
Lielakie 
I suppose my question is, did he choose alcohol over me that night? Is it because I tolerated his bad behaviour that he thinks it's okay to treat me like this?
Yes, and yes.
I am sorry for your loss and disappointment, which I know are real and painful whether you have 4 months or 4 years invested.
I have to agree with the others - you were wise to let go. Always listen to that inner voice, trust your instincts, go with your gut.
We all deserve to be respected and loved, not minimized and abused.
Good luck to you,
Spider