Originally Posted by
MamaKit 
When I used to say to myself that I just wanted to get it out and I want to be heard....what I really wanted was for him to agree with what I was saying and to change in the way I wanted him to.
There came a time when it dawned on me that my words were not that compelling to him.
This is so true. For a looooong time I suffered from the illusion that if I could just "say it the right way," he would suddenly understand and everything would change. At the end of the day, both his actions and his words in response to me screamed, loud and clear, that he was unable and/or unwilling to take my feelings into consideration.