So I guess what I have to do is work out the triggers? Boredom is one, loneliness is another.
misspond,
knowing some of the triggers was helpful to me in as far as then i wouldn't be shocked when i suddenly had the "drinkdrinkdrink" thing going on. and knowing some of them also means i could prepare for them, have a plan of sorts.
but there are always unforeseen ones, or new ones i hadn't encountered yet.
a trigger is just that; it triggers a reaction, a response.
in and of itself it has no other power.
the things that are triggers for you such as boredom and loneliness....those things are challenges, i think, that have a much wider impact that "just" as a trigger. they're...hm...life-kinda-issues.
for me, triggers i could/can just sit through, they're at most uncomfortable for a bit. they lessen with time. but looking what's behind them, WHY something triggered,and what to do about THAT....that's where the work is, for me.