spiderqueen

I am separated now for 2 months from XABF. We are still in contact, mostly via text, sometimes the phone. I have not (yet) opted for no contact - but I am prepared to pull that trigger.

Meanwhile, I hear everything he says kinda like birds tweeting, or, umm maybe they're ducks, quacking.... even though at this point, all the words *sound* right. But the words don't amount to a hill of beans anymore. He and I both are clear: Only sustained sobriety while working a consistent recovery program matter now, and I will know if that is happening.

He is a notorious drunk dialer/texter, and until they invent a breathalyzer for the phone, he won't be able to hide the truth from me, if he stays in contact.

And if he doesn't stay in contact, that will also be everything I need to know.

Actions, not words.

I am truly sorry for your pain, Netta. I hope things are getting better for you.