Well then, that just leaves a whole pile of "these kids are gonna need a LOT of therapy", and not a whole lot of room for you to quietly infiltrate and try to be there for them. My mother used to always try to get us to turn on people who cared about us. If the focus wasn't on HER, then the situation had to change. Creating drama that placed her as the "neutral" third party was her specialty. I think I was 13 or so when I finally caught on. *sigh* I feel for those kids and for you.