Hi
I read your story and can relate from many relationships in my life.
I think what I saw to be trouble is you telling him what he can and can't do. "You can't drink even 1 beer" "you have to go to AA".
No. He can do whatever the heck he wants.
I think you should take back control (instead of trying to control him) and say, "I won't live like this. I won't tolerate your drinking. If I don't see active recovery, I am done." Or just leave. I mean...words are cheap most of the times with addicts.