See, I do think my husband is an alcoholic, but who am I to point fingers? When I am drinking, we enable one another. I know he misses his drinking buddy, me. That is what we share, sadly. Not always lushes, but it is what we did. I do think I struggle more, am more progressed, but I do not think he could give it up entirely.
I do not get into it with him, because I really have no position to argue from until I am sober with some time under my belt.