The statement "anyone who drinks ends up over doing it sometimes" tells me that he really doesn't know you yet.
He sounds much more like a sick codependent to me who has not yet accept that when it comes to our loved one's alcoholism: we did not cause it, we cannot control it and we cannot cure it. He is trying to control the disease (or beast for AVRT people) and it's not going to work out. He will only make himself sick and obsessive in the process.
I should know, I have been there
