Here is what I do (I set this as my goal and so far it helps). No matter what he tells you, keep telling yourself "I will not fight, he wants it, he wants me to scream," then focus on your breathing and stay calm. Try to visualize that you are a rock or that you were made of air, so his words cannot penetrate or they just go through you. Just tell him "I'm sorry, but I think that you are wrong," and walk away. Do something that he does not expect you to do (for example, I just took my keys and told my husband "I'm going for a walk. I'll be back in an hour. Bye.").