Oh no, I didnt address the part about which bar he went to with him. I just mentioned it because it seemed kind of purposeful on his part, as if he was TRYING to get my there. He doesn't normally frequent bars at all. In fact, he's not a big drinker, either. Which is why it seem intentional to me. And why it puzzles me so.
I could almost understand if he was losing a drinking buddy. But he's not a big drinker normally. It just doesn't make sense to me.
Originally Posted by
madbird 
The first time I quit drinking when I was a lot younger, the same thing happened to me. I found out who my real friends were.
A close friend came to visit me in treatment when she was high, and when I asked her not to visit me in that condition I never saw her again.
I don't think that asking someone to respect your boundaries by not being around you when they are drinking is unreasonable at all. But if you're asking them to avoid your old bar, that's unreasonable.