Lookin, although I am sometimes ashamed to admit it, my daughters were also my primary motivation to Finally Let Go.
I say ashamed, because I wish I had had the self-love in the first place. The good news is, away from my XABF, I am finally re-building that foundation; which is a marvelous thing to model for my daughters! Truly, a WIN/WIN situation.
Not to minimize the loss and pain, mind you. That is/was a b****.
Stay strong, we are here to help!
SQ