Hi there flower girl :-)
I'm an alcoholic, born to a long line of alkies and druggies. I was abused as a child, and was not protected by my mother. Or by any other relative either.
I don't blame my biological family for my alcoholism. Once I was out of the house and on my own I had the freedom to choose what I wanted to do with my life. I chose to booze it up, party down and have a good time. From the very first drink I had a huge tolerance, and loved the "buzz". More than likely, I would have become alcoholic regardless of what family raised me.
Nobody can make me be an alcoholic. Only I can do that. Nobody can keep me sober either, only I can do that. You did not cause your son's alcoholism. What you _can_ do is work your own program of recovery to help you deal with your own guilt and issues. That way, you will have the tools with which to stop enabling him as well as being an example to him of how a program of recovery can make a positive change in your life.
Whadya think?
Mike :-)