Hello liveweyerd,
Welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry for all the trauma you've experienced. It really does change our outlook on life and changes the way we react to life.
I am truely sorry about your son. I know how those aniversarys are. It gets easier every year. The first few years are the hardest.
The medication can make you feel so much better that you think you can go off of it and then anxiety will hit you as bad as it was before the medication. If you are feeling anxious call the doctor and get back on the meds. There is no reason to suffer more than you have to.
I am like you and can't stand noise. It's like the nerves are raw. All the other symptoms for me have gotten much better. It just took a lot of time.
I hope you are in a safe situation now and away from abuse. Please feel free to start a new thread and post anytime you want to share anything that's on your mind. You are not alone and can speak freely here.
Hugs,
MG