Originally Posted by
dox 
Mountainman mentioned an important omission that seemed to jump out at me from your first post: You don't mention a sponsor or the 12-steps -- only that your boyfriend attends AA meetings 3 times a week.
This was the first thing that jumped out at me as well. I've been able to string several years of sobriety together on multiple occasions, but I never worked the steps and I always ended up relapsing. I have 4 and a half months now, and this time I worked the steps right away with a sponsor. It's made a huge difference in my life. I no longer have the obsession to drink, but even more importantly I actually enjoy living life sober now. Staying sober used to seem like a job...something I needed to do, but after working the steps that feeling disappeared. I still have problems in life as we all do, but the steps help me deal with those problems in a healthy way instead of drinking over them.
So to sum up, he needs to get a sponsor and work the steps ASAP.