Hi longtime,
Welcome to the recovery forum! If you don't want to keep working this out, you don't have to. That's a personal decision and whether you have been married to this man for 9 months or 9 years, embarassment is not a good reason to stay in a relationship. If you're afraid of him, call a spouse abuse hotline in your area and get their advice.
I second Pauline's suggestion that you get to an alanon meeting. I don't know what you're trying to accomplish when you call him and, as you say, try to make him feel bad, but you can't manipulate him into cleaning up. You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it.
The first thing is to make sure you're safe.
Keep posting!
Hugs,
Smoke