Ya, one of the things I have realized is that I kinda WANT the friends who hang out at coffeehouses now ..rather than bars. I have gone to two alcohol centered events in my sobriety and was pretty much bored out of my mind. The first hour or so was alright but after folks started to get their "buzz" on..the social aspect deteriorated rapidly. I couldn't relate with anyone anymore. When my life was alcohol centered I hung with others devoted to it as well. In sobriety, I want to hang with those who find fun, enlightment and social connection that does not require alcohol. I'm working on that.