HS, just wanted to say that there have been some great suggestions here, and I hope you can find a way to put some of them in action. You made an extremely brave first step; I just can't believe you were meant to fail after starting out w/that much courage!
I would agree that going to some Alanon meetings would serve both the purpose of getting you out of the house and hopefully getting some contacts who could help you w/the housing/job situation. You just never know who knows who, and what they might need...
Holding good thoughts for you, and I hope that taking some of the actions suggested here will pay off for you soon. Keep us all posted, OK?