Originally Posted by
Sasha4 
Do you not think that he abandoned you in any way shape or form?
To me its seems like him never being there and not offering any financial stability, and doing meth behind your back and in secret is a form of abandoning you to.
Are you still in contact with him?
Where is he at with his life now?
Great question. Yes, I do at times try to reframe and acknowledge that his secret use was a form of abandonment but then I think about my unhealthy drinking that occurred before his relapse. Then I wonder who abandon who first, then the ruminations start...
Yes, I do have periodic contact with him. He lives a few hours away which for this codie is probably a blessing. He lives with his dad and last I heard was attending support meetings and trying to find a sponsor. He lives in a very rural part of the state and services are limited.