Welcome Vicky!
I'm on day 12 and I can tell from personal experience that seeing your doctor to help you incredibly useful. Especially if you've been a long-time heavy drinker. But I'd recommend it to anyone, can't hurt, will probably help.
I didn't contact a doctor until day 4 because I didn't know much about detoxing. Had I known then what I know now, I'd first visit my doctor before quitting.
It worked out in the end, but it would have been much better to sit down with my doc to begin with.
Btw, you said:
"I guess it's time to stop behaving like an adolescent (i'm 37 and have 3 children fgs!) and grow up a bit. I need to bring my future in close and get some impulse control. "
You have one of the things that make quitting easier: honesty. As well as a good insight into your current situation and where you want to go. Those will be wonderful and very useful resources for you.
Again, welcome!